It seems like it has been an eternity since I felt the pain of divorce. I can only thank God for His healing grace that has allowed me to move forward in this walk we call life without it.
Many of you are just now experiencing the pain of separation or divorce for the first time. My heart is heavy for you. I have been there, twice…. and would not wish the pain you are feeling on anyone.
There are so many different kinds of wounds that cause the pain you are feeling right now. Pain from abandonment, abuse, neglect, loss, and anxiety just to name a few. What can you do?
I can tell you what NOT to do…..
Please, no matter how fresh your wounds are, get healing. Do not ignore them.
An unhealed wound will lead to an infected soul and a future filled with regret, bitterness, and pain that will linger as long as you are unwilling to deal with them.
Sometimes the wounds are self-inflicted, but I believe most of the readers of this blog have been wounded by a spouse, ex, or even a friend. How you received the wound is not as important as getting the wound the attention it needs to heal.
The world will tell you to run to so many things including a friend, family, an addiction, a counselor, or even back to the one who wounded you. Some of these are totally destructive and some may help in the short term.
Let me present to you the only one who can heal a broken heart — JESUS!!!
He can also heal your soul which no human, substance, or belief system can do. No matter how good those things may make you feel, they do not heal the wounds that could end up being with you the rest of your life without His healing power.
Pain is what tells us there is a wound. If you are feeling pain, you have a wound that needs healing.
Is your pain emotional? Is your pain physical? Is your pain spiritual? Is your pain mental?
Jeremiah 30:17 English Standard Version
17 For I will restore health to you, and your wounds I will heal, declares the Lord …
Jesus is able to heal every wound you have, no matter where it is and how deep it hurts.
Pastors, doctors, friends, family, groups, and others may be able to help in some ways. By all means, if a Christian counselor can help you make sense of the pain and a group can help you have others going through the same pain help you see that healing is possible, use them.
Where those leave off, you need something more: the One who created you and knows how to heal you.
Only the Lord can heal what remains like a broken heart and a wounded soul.
Psalm 147:3 English Standard Version
3 He heals the brokenhearted and binds up their wounds.
So many people settle more moving on without dealing with the real wounds in their soul. They grab a drink, a new relationship, or hold of a new “religion” that promises the world when all these do is mask the pain and lead them down a road of self-seeking relief.
If you need a brain surgeon to heal you remove a tumor on your brain, how can you think you could repair your own soul? A cardiologist may be able to fix a damaged physical heart, but he can’t fix your emotional or spiritual heart.
Only your Creator is the One who can completely heal the wounds of betrayal, abandonment, and abuse. No human, especially you, are equipped with the grace, peace, and love that those wounds need to fully recover and made new.
Take a few minutes and quiet yourself. Ask the Lord to meet you where you are. He knows you are hurting and in pain.
He knows what you need. Give him time to speak to you. If you have never done this before, just turn off all distractions. Close your eyes and ask Him to speak to you. If you are quiet and just focus on Him, within a few minutes You may sense Him giving you exactly what you need: Time with Him.
Be honest. Tell God every hurt, what caused the pain, and what you need. Ask Him to reveal every hidden hurt and part of you that is wounded. Give everyone of them to Him. He wants to hear from you.
Psalm 22:24 English Standard Version
24 For he has not despised or abhorred the affliction of the afflicted,
and he has not hidden his face from him, but has heard, when he cried to him.
God wants to be there for you. It is up to you if you want Him to be there.
He gave us free will, to decide how we want to live. Choose every moment and every day to live with Him.
Of course, He can use people in our sphere to be His hands and feet in many situations to give us a hug, a kind word, or a healing encouragement. Ask Him to give you those people to be there for you and give God the glory for those Godly relationships helping you on your path to healing.
He is sufficient for you. He created you. He loves you with an everlasting love. Choose to embrace His open arms ready to embrace you!!
2 Corinthians 12:9 English Standard Version
9 But he said to me, “My grace is sufficient for you, for my power is made perfect in weakness.” Therefore I will boast all the more gladly of my weaknesses, so that the power of Christ may rest upon me.
Be Blessed !!
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