Ok, so how many of you like a nice cup of coffee?
Do you like the chain coffee super-giant, another pastry giant that offers joe, or do you make it at home?
Have you ever gone into or hit the drive-thru at your local bean joint and run into somebody that means well, but couldn’t help you because they have no idea how to help or what they have available?
You say “I would like a double frap no whip skinny dark triple caramel soy Americano” and the clerk asks, “WOULD YOU LIKE FRIES WITH THAT?”
WHAT THE F&*^$#*Q^#*&@$&*@#??????????
They are either a total idiot, a trainee, or just plain missing a few peas in their potpie…….. (sheesh)
Kind of like your friends and family when they find out you are separated, divorced, or somewhere in-between……right?
They mean well. They just don’t have the capacity to provide you with what you need. For instance, asking you if you would like fries with your latte. Asking you the stupid questions seems fine to them, but most of the time will only drive you totally crazy!!
I am not here to tell you that all of the advice you may get (solicited or not) is bad or no good. I am here to tell you they may not be the one most qualified at this moment to give you want you want and need when it comes to healing advice.
Most people have had nothing but bad experiences in their own marriages/relationships and are just carrying a lot of baggage themselves. Some just want to tell you what they think you want to hear. Some even just give you an uneasy feeling about everything. Don’t let someone else be your excuse for getting fries at a coffee shop!!
You need to make sure the person that is handling your ‘healing’ order is one qualified, able, and dedicated to your healing and not just in it for their own gain. There are no lack of professional counselors, care partners, and pastors who will be more than happy to help in any way they can. My first choice for you would be God!!
“With Him are wisdom and strength, He has counsel and understanding.” Job 12:13
“There are many plans in a man’s heart, Nevertheless the Lord’s counsel—that will stand.” Proverbs 19:21
Just be aware of where you go to get advice and encouragement to help you in your healing process. Seek out those that are honest and truthful with you, even willing to say what hurts if it is what is needed to bring forth healing.
God is always there. He is just waiting for you to order up a giant 64 oz cup of healing. Just make sure you not talking to the stock clerk when you really need to be talking to the cashier.
And no, they don’t serve fries at my local 7-11. At least not that I am aware of……..