Today at church, our pastor started a new series called “This Is Not What I Asked For”.
Wow!! What a way to get me to finally update the blog with a new post.
I couldn’t help but be taken back in my mind to when I was left broken hearted and betrayed. Twice. I did not plan for that. I did not want that. I did not ask for that.
I am sure if you are not in that place right now, you have experienced those feelings in the past. I am right there with you again.
God has a way of taking us to our past to move us forward from our present to His future.
As God reminds me of those things that I have long since forgotten and been healed from, I have a fresh desire to help you through your struggles and healing process.
I have become too comfortable and busy in my own life and with my own family. I have been making plans and living life far removed from the pain where I once lived.
In many ways, that should encourage you. It has been over 18 years and I can tell you that taking God’s hand and letting him heal me completely was the greatest thing that has ever allowed me to move forward. It is the only way to fully and completely overcome what you are going through today.
Yet, it has allowed me to try to make plans that do not include my passion; helping others. I have been failing that part of the reason I experienced all of the pain and suffering.
I have given God the glory for the healing, yet not moved on into the fullness that He has had for me. Please don’t make the same mistakes I have made.
My plans in life of getting married and living happily ever after didn’t happen. Twice. Now after being happily married for over 18 years and experiencing my greatest life to this point, it is not enough.
My wife and I are more in love and growing more in love every day. We have 2 beautiful children and are recently new grandparents of a little grand-daughter. Yet, these were not my plans.
This is not what I asked for. It is actually what God has blessed me with, even though I messed up so many times and chose my plans. I didn’t need to experience that, but I am so thankful for what I have now.
This might be confusing. It looks like from the outside I have it all.
I never experienced divorce as a child. My parents are still together and a blessing to all of us kids. I grew up in a together home. Not perfect, but together and loving.
THAT is what I asked for when I got married. But that is not what I got. I got cheated on and abandoned. I got treated like the bad guy. My plans got dismissed and trashed like a left over gum wrapper.
I am now much closer to what I asked for. Helping you is also a part of that.
It is ok to realize that the plans we make fail. It may be our fault and it may not. It may be through a tragic loss, abuse, adultery, or a large number of reasons. We are human. We are not perfect, and neither are the people in our lives.
It is ok to make plans and strive every day to make those plans work. My wife and daughter are huge planners. They love making a plan and completing it. If it wasn’t for plans we would not have raised skyscrapers or put a man on the moon. I can guarantee you that NONE of those things happened with out a change of plans.
A rough draft is just that; rough. The best plans are those that figure in all the contingencies, yet are able to flex and adapt to the changes needed. Even final plans end with a punch list where you need to dot all the i’s and cross all the t’s before the plans are complete.
God has plans for you and your life.
I am still learning this after over 25 years of marriage, divorce, marriage, divorce, and marriage.
We can’t change the past, yet we can learn from it as we heal from it with Jesus!!
I want to encourage you today to know that God’s plans for you are the BEST plans for you.
Jeremiah 29:11 New International Version
11 For I know the plans I have for you,” declares the Lord, “plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future.
What are your plans? Are they YOUR plans, or are they GOD’s plans?
Know that God loves you and is ready and willing to share His plans for you as you spend time in His Word, praying, worshipping Him, and being around your church family through a group and attending in person or online.
The ultimate plan changer is the One who has the Master plan.
Interesting why that is the name of the plan, isn’t it?
Here is a link to the message from Pastor John Wyatt with Celebration Church from Jacksonville, FL if you would like to see it: