Trust

One of the biggest failures in divorce, usually the greatest factor, is a destruction of the trust built between you and your spouse. Usually and almost exclusively, another person has been involved in some way. Faith is shattered when trust is broken by another.

Too many people want to give you every reason to grab a knife/gun/tank/nuclear bomb and just make sure that it will never happen again (hint, hint, wink, wink). As tempting and fulfilling it may make you feel, spending the rest of your life in jail on top of all of this is not recommended, let alone desired. Just don’t do it.

Most people tell you that trust can never be restored, but that is untrue. Many people have invested in preserving their marriage, so it can be done. I will tell you that the vast majority have not, and it takes two willing and totally unselfish people through much pain and wise counsel to accomplish it.

When you start to come to grips with things, don’t allow yourself to assume the blame for another person’s sin and mistakes. Choices have consequences.

The way to develop trust again is a long, hard road. Make sure you get help from those qualified to guide you correctly towards a real healing in that area.

You will be able to trust again, but you must never allow your trust in a human being be greater than your trust in the only One who is fully trustworthy.

²  “Behold, God is my salvation, I will trust and not be afraid;
For the Lord God is my strength and song, And He has become my salvation.” Is 12:2

Trust is not given, awarded, or bought. It is earned only by the one who is proven trustworthy. After you fully trust Jesus to heal you, He will help you trust again.

Prayer

God, I desperately need Your help to be able to trust You more each day for everything. I choose to trust you instead of man, in Jesus’ name. Amen.