Ok. Before I blow my witness, I should just gather my thoughts. Calm down, mister……
I am PISSED!!!
MAN, why does this happen?!?!?
I received a text today from a very close friend in my life. They told me that they found out what caused their co-worker to go to the hospital with chest pains on New Year’s Eve. You wanna know why?
They moved out this last weekend. They are now separated from their spouse.
I have no idea what kind of situation is going on. I only know of this person because it is a co-worker of my close friend and they found out the news.
I don’t know if there was infidelity. I don’t know how long they have been struggling. I don’t know if abuse was involved.
Will I seem insensitive if I say “I DON”T CARE WHY!!!!!!”?
This just has to stop. Am I the only person who thinks that people just take others and relationships for granted? NONSENSE!!!!!
OK, back to reality…. Serenity now…..Serenity now……
I am sorry. I must now know that the thing I am most passionate about in life is not making more money, reaching new levels of success in my career, or becoming famous.
I have a heart for those that have to deal with separation and divorce. And it sucks. It really does.
It sucks that I cannot help people before it happens. Of course, I would if I could. Or can I.
Maybe I am just a bleeding-heart with no real answers that just feels bad for people. Maybe I think I can help but I really can’t. Maybe because I am not educated in whatever brain science they teach in college and have a piece of paper on the wall, I am helpless to help those that are helpless.
I call BS on that!!!
I have been there and done that, TWICE!!! I have felt the pain, that stabbing in the gut, back, head, heart, and every other part of me. I know what it is like to hurt. I know what is like to love someone and have them just crap on your marriage.
I know even more after today that I need to find a way to be a practical and effective help to those that desire help. I know people would get help, if they actually want it and choose to value their relationship.
If you happen to be looking at this blog and have not yet, but are deciding if you need to get separated or a divorce, let me help you. Let others help you. Reach out to those who will tell you the hard truth, not just what you want to hear. Find someone that you can trust to give you life-changing advice that will save you from one of the most painful and hardest things you you can experience. Take time to think things through and get help. Don’t go it alone.
As a Christian, the ONLY way I could make it through was to let God take over my thoughts, feelings, and emotions. I did everything in my natural strength to save my marriages. It didn’t work.
I can tell you and my wife will tell you too, my ex-spouses screwed up. I am a great guy who needed some time to learn how to be a husband, friend, and lover. I needed to learn to communicate and not just listen. I had things to improve, but in this microwave world of ‘you are not my soul mate and it’s been 5 days or 5 weeks or even 5 months’, it was convenient for them to just jump ship.
I am not perfect. I have never claimed to be and I know more and more each day that I never will be perfect.
That is not a reason to give up on a relationship.
(climbing down from my 100ft high soapbox)
Thanks for letting me rant. I just needed to vent. It really has helped me to see that I must do all I can to help those that want and need the help that I can give.
I will have some more blog posts coming soon. Hopefully, you will get something that you can use to help in your own journey.