TAKE THE HIGH ROAD !!
Beyond all of the lies, pain, struggle, and grief is a person who is needing to have direction at this time. You want to know which way to go, because you are just lost at times. Every path seems to lead down the wrong road and you are sick of just traveling around the same mountain again and again and again.
Too many times we take the path of revenge, bitterness, unforgiveness, and regret. It seems like the easier and sometimes more rewarding path, but that is far from the case.
In the end, you are going to have to live with yourself and the consequences of taking the easy road instead of the high road. It rolls downhill and seems easy, but it is full of potholes and pain.
Taking the high road does not mean you roll over and let things happen. It doesn’t mean you take things lying down or continue in an abusive relationship. Taking the high road means to be the bigger person and be the one who does the right thing in the relationship.
Children know which parent is living a lie. They know what is going on, even if you choose not to share thoughts and feelings with them. They can see by the actions of their parents who is living a life worth emulating and following. They know, even if they don’t say it.
I don’t know how many stories I have heard about children who may blame their mom for leaving their husband (or vice versa) because they were the spouse that left, not because they where the spouse in the wrong. They may like being ‘bought presents’ and affection from one parents and have nothing with the other.
Someday, but maybe not today, they will figure it out.
Take the high road anyway.
When your spouse chooses to go behind your back with something pertaining your kids, when she tells all of her girlfriends how much of a slob and workaholic you are, when he takes the money out of the account before he leaves you and you have no finances left…..
Take the high road anyway.
Do the right thing and prayerfully consider what you need to say or do to protect yourself and your children. It is not about getting something from that ^&#&^!@%, but it is about following through on raising your children to the best of your ability within the laws of the land. It is about modeling behavior that you want your children to see on how to handle stressful and life-changing events in your life so that they can learn from them.
When you look back months and years from now, if you take the high road, you will be able to see how being the bigger person and doing the right thing has enhanced your character and developed a strength in you that nothing else up to this point could do.
I would love to know what kind of high road examples and experiences you would like to share. Feel free to comment below. I know it would encourage others to hear how you have learned from your experiences.
The view is always better from the top of the mountain. At the top, you can see where you are going. You can see the beauty and the mountain tops that lie before you. When you are stuck at the bottom of the mountain, all you see is the path before and behind you. No vision and regret from taking the easy way.
Take the high road. Let out a shout & listen as the mountains echo your voice of victory on your road to healing.